The Myth of “Righteous Anger”

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Since I know you didn’t actually do that, let me tell you what it says. Nothing shows up.

Those two words don’t appear side by side in the Bible. 

In fact, James 1:20 says quite the opposite

{for the anger of man does not produce the righteousness of God}

So where did this term come from?

Who came up with the idea of “righteous anger”?

Who decided that as Christians it would be righteous of us to be angry, even if our anger is directed towards sin? 

God doesn’t need our anger or want our anger. He didn’t call us to anger. He called us to love. That’s what Jesus emphasized over and over during His earthly ministry. 

If anyone were going to be angered by sin, it should have been Jesus. He was the one they were sinning against. He was the one who was going to have to bleed and die for it. And He is the only one to ever walk this earth and not be just like them — sinners. And yet there are very few times when the Bible mentions Jesus getting angry or acting in anger. 

Jesus didn’t ignore the injustices all around Him, but rather than letting His actions be fueled by anger, He let them be fueled by compassion and love. 

Love is what God commands in the Great Commandment. Love is what Paul describes as bearing, believing, hoping, and enduring all things (1 Corinthians 13:8). Love is what Jesus showed on the cross to a broken and dying world, devoid of any reason to be loved. Love is what no one deserves, by what Christ calls us to show. 

Anger won’t draw anyone to the Father, but love will

“Jesus will not accept the common distinction between righteous indignation and unjustifiable anger. The disciple must be entirely innocent of anger, because anger is an offence against both God and his neighbour.” — Dietrich Bonhoeffer

There are surely injustices in this world. There are surely things we must fight against in this world. But rather than convincing ourselves that our anger towards these things is righteous and is what should be going on, why don’t we focus on letting love drive us to do great things. To share hope and comfort with this broken world. And to point every person that we see back to Jesus. 

I’m not here to tell you you’re an awful human for getting angry. I’m here to tell you that unless we do something with that anger, unless we allow Christ to take it from us and replace it with love and passion to do something about the injustice in our world, then it’s meaningless. And worse than that, it’s stealing our joy. 

When you really think about it, why would we want to be angry in the first place? I sure don’t want to be. I don’t like how it makes me feel and I certainly don’t like the person that I am when I’m angry. So, as much as possible, I’m going to choose not to be angry. Even if it seems like I’m in the right, or that my anger may be “righteous”. I don’t want to choose anger anymore, I want to choose love. 

Taryn

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You Can’t Earn Love

Most days, I don’t think I deserve love. I don’t think I deserve to have friends. I don’t think I deserve to be liked. 
And you know what?

I don’t. 

Because in the grand scheme of things, I don’t deserve anything good in this life. 

Romans 3 and 6 clearly tell me that I am a sinner only deserving of death, and I can’t deny it. 

BUT (Romans 5) God proved that He loved me anyway when He sent Jesus to die for me. 

And it’s high time that I stopped telling Him He’s wrong. 

God, you shouldn’t love me. Do you not see how messed up I am? God, why do my parents or friends love me? I’m not worth it. I’m a burden. 

Taryn. Did I ask you if you were worth it when I died for you? No. I love you. Accept my love. 

How ungrateful must I be to tell God He is wrongly living me? Shouldn’t I instead be thanking Him for His unending grace and love? And for giving me people to love me too?

I want to spend less time thinking I’m not worth it and more time thanking the people that don’t care if I’m worth it or not. 

Because you know what? I can’t earn love and I don’t deserve it. But my God is good. And He doesn’t give me what I deserve. Every good and perfect gift comes from Him (James 1) and He sure has blessed me royally. 

So to all of my friends out there reading this who love me so much and so well, thank you. I don’t say that enough. Thank you, you guys are absolutely amazing. And God? Thank You, I know I’m living for Heaven and not here, but You’ve made here pretty great too:):)

I hope you all have a great weekend!

— Taryn

How Deep the Father’s Love

How deep the Father’s love for us

How vast beyond all measure

That He should give His only Son

To make a wretch His treasure

Why should I gain from His great loss?

I can not give an answer

But this I know with all my heart

His wounds have paid my ransom


God loves us so well and so abundantly. And He reveals it in the most breathtaking ways. 

If you could know the future, would you want to?

If you could choose to know what the greatest hardship in your life would be, would you want to know now?

If you knew how and when the person you love most was going to die, would you do anything differently?

If you could somehow control whether or not they had to die, but the stakes were very high, what would you choose?

I was in tears this weekend as I considered these mind boggling concepts. How would I handle it as a parent watching my child struggle through a fatal illness? Knowing the doctor’s verdict carried little hope. I don’t know that I could do it, I’m almost sure that I couldn’t. 

But God did.

God did that — and He did it for me. Because He loves me that much!!

That hit me hard this weekend. God sent His Son. His one and only Son. His Son that He loves perfectly. He sent Him to die, to be torchered and mocked and beaten and crucified. How?!? It would have been so much easier, in my opinion, to take it Himself. How could He bear to watch that?!?

Because He loves me. 

I’m not in the least deserving of that love. And yet my LORD offers it freely to me and at the highest of costs to Him. 

In the last moments of Jesus’ suffering on earth, the Father had to turn away. He couldn’t even watch His Son suffer and die because He couldn’t in His holiness look at the sin Jesus was taking on His shoulders. 

That’s how deeply the Father loves us. 

If I could choose to see the future,  I would have to choose not to. I couldn’t handle it. But that is a post for another day. Today, the main point I wanted to make is simply that God did. He loves me more than I could ever comprehend. Through all my rebellion and failures. He loves me so much He sent His Son to die. 

 I never want to lose the gravity of that.

Taryn

What is True Love?

What is true love? Well, let me start by telling you what I know it isn’t. Love is not a feeling, because feelings change day in and day out and 1 Corinthians 13 clearly states that “Love never ends”. Now, I’ve always known in my head that love isn’t a feeling, but I didn’t realize until recently quite how diverse love really is. Love is based on actions. Love is putting someone else above yourself and being willing to do whatever it takes to take care of them. Love is wanting the absolute best for that person, and pursuing that selflessly. But that can look different for different people and at different times.

Love is not affectionate feeling, but a steady wish for the loved person’s ultimate good as far as it can be obtained. — C. S. Lewis

Love doesn’t always, and honestly rarely does, look like a knight in shining armor saving a damsel in distress. But even thinking realistically, in my day to day life, love takes many different forms. On days that I’m happy and life is good, I am receptive to my friends and family showing me they love me by saying kind and encouraging things, by planning fun things for us to do together, or by giving me hugs. But on days where I’m feeling my lowest, those things aren’t what I need. Sometimes I just need someone to sit quietly next to me while I cry or to listen to me rant for a while.

I’ve been overwhelmed this year with all of the different things that love looks like. It can take completely opposite forms at different times. Sometimes it means talking to someone for hours, and sometimes it means understanding that they aren’t ready to talk about something or are too busy to do so. Sometimes it looks like making a big deal out of someone’s birthday, while other times it means knowing that they just need calm and quiet.

Through all the ups and downs of life there’s a few things that I’ve learned are constant about love. Patience. Love always looks like putting the other person before yourself. The opposite of love is not hate, but rather selfishness. That always requires being patient and understanding. Stepping back and remembering that this person is so important to you and it’s more than worth it to be patient and loving.

“Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never ends” — 1 Corinthians 13:7-8

I’ve learned that I love lots of different people in lots of different ways, and that’s how God designed life in community to be lived out. I’m so blessed by the people God has surrounded me with, to share His love with and to be loved by. He’s shown me that He is the standard of true love, that true love was demonstrated for me on the cross, and that I need to strive to live with that kind of love every day. Selfless. Relentless. True.